In this life, from the moment we are born, we are all seeking safety. Our body and our mind is analyzing our surroundings even from infancy to decide if we are emotionally and physically safe.

Within the container and practice of BDSM, we cultivate a safe space. A safe space built on mutual desires, open communication, and brave curiosity as to the boundaries of what our bodies and minds are capable of and the many depths and layers that exist within one's experience of pleasure and pain.

It is because of this cultivation of safety that submissives and dominants are able to find a supported space for surrender, built on the trust between the individuals. It is a place of physical and emotional vulnerability. This is a place where we can explore our edges safely and find deep, cathartic, consensual release.

That release manifests in many forms, including epic climactic moments of intensity, sexual arousal, deep belly howling, a seismic scream, or the release of tears. We hold our emotions in our bodies; some of us hold them there for years.

Emotions are feelings in motion, but sometimes there isn't room for those feelings to be fully expressed. Society tells us to stay composed and keep it together. It sends men messages that "boys don't cry." Overall, we are lacking in our society for safe places to express ourselves and our emotions in an embodied way.

When we are engaging in a powerful BDSM scene, intense emotion may arise, and tears may flow. This release is supported in the safety of the BDSM container. It is indicative of the movement of energy and emotion.

This release can also be beautiful to watch. As we watch crying in bondage, we might feel joy or arousal as we empathically experience in our own bodies the cathartic and emotional release that the performer onscreen is having.

This crying kink or crying fetish is our bodies finding our own sense of release in what is being experienced on screen. Part of the beauty of film and art is that it can make us feel, expand, and open our hearts. Even something like BDSM crying porn has a profound effect on us as viewers, and gives us the permission we need to feel deeply, to cry, to release, to become aroused, and to experience pleasure in a deep and meaningful way.

Crying in BDSM porn is the documentation of a trusted release of emotion during intense kink play; it is tender and vulnerable. For many, it is also a sexual fetish that intertwines emotional expression with erotic energy and the pursuit of sexual pleasure. It is the unseen of our emotional landscape materializing as tears streak down our cheeks. May we all feel the safety we so desire to experience deep cathartic release and allow our own emotions to flow.